Had a very challenging weekend, I got into a tiff with someone close to me. The clash began with the statement "I don't like the process" to which I responded, "I have no idea what to do with that statement." I didn't know if I was supposed to comfort, educate, cease the project that was "the process". So me being me (the female version of Spock) provided an explanation of why the process was what it was then proceeded to get my ass chewed for "always reading into everything!" Really I felt as dumb as could be, I couldn't speak I was so dumbfounded. So my question is, can there be a intimate relationship when you don't understand where your partner in the relationship is coming from? Wost of all it lead to me AGAIN feeling totally alone in an endeavor. I start on something with this person thinking we are on the same page then whenever even a slight snafu happens I turn around to see NO ONE behind me, I am alone holding the puck. Again I ask, can there be a relationship when you do not feel that someone has your back?
There is no chance of this person changing as they feel their behavior is totally appropriate and as always I have the problem. Still feeling dumbfounded and totally unable to see how there is a future without trust and emotional understanding.
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